UNDERSTAND THESE TEN (10) GOLDEN SECRETS OF MARRIAGE AND MAKE YOURS A HEAVEN ON EARTH KIND.
TO THOSE WHO ARE MARRIED AND THOSE PREPARING TO GET MARRIED SOON.
Marriage is a good thing and it is a gift from God to mankind with so many blessing and benefits. Marriage is to be enjoyed not to be endured. The partners involved makes it enjoyable with the understanding of these ten secrets:
10. EVERYONE YOU MARRY OR CHOOSE TO MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS.
Don’t be deceived, everyone is unique in their own way and have their weaknesses. No man or woman is almighty. Only God is Almighty
and has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. This weakness will be exhibited at times in the journey of marriage. Understand and know that it will come out many times but focus more on their strengths and bring the best out of your spouse through quality conversations and meekness to make your marriage a heaven on earth kind.
9. EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY
Love overlooks the mistakes of others but dwelling on the failures of others devastates a union.
Understand that no one is an Angel, therefore, avoid digging and remembering one’s past. Focus on building a new beginning with your spouse. Digging into the past of your spouse only ignites anger and low self-esteem which pose threats to the marriage. Forgive each other’s past, live in the present and build that glorious future together happily. The ultimate of love is loving the imperfect person perfectly.
8. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT’S OWN CHALLENGES.
In every journey you embark on, you will meet either potholes, speed ramps among others.
Marriage is a lifetime journey and as you embark on this journey you will meet its own potholes in the form of challenges. They are not there to destroy you nor tear you apart,they are there to strengthen you. You have to understand that marriage is not a bed of roses. Every marriage you see glorious and happy has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire.
Stay with your spouse even in dark moments and fight together for a glorious marriage. You are the driver on the wheel of the marriage bus. True love is proved in time of challenge. Prove your love to each other in hard times. You will come out victorious and your bond more strengthened.
7. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS.
Success is progressive, not permanent. Success in marriage is relative. The success of one’s marriage can’t be equal to another’s. Be happy for your level of success in your marriage and strive to be better comparing yourself to yourself not other people’s marriage. We are unique in our own ways and can never be equal; some will be far in front and others at their own level. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true.
6. TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR.
Are you surprised marriage is more or less a war? Calm down your nerves.
There are things that don’t like good things to happen to you and they are always devising strategies to see you not progressing.
When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are Ignorance, Prayerlessness, Unforgiveness, Adultery, Third Party Influence, Stinginess, Stubbornness, Lack Of Love, Rudeness, Laziness, Impatience, Divorce etc. They will consistently rise and you must be ready to fight to maintain your marriage. Permit not these enemies to come near your marriage.
5. THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE.
Marriage is built by to imperfect beings striving to perfect each other. Marriage is to be built by two understanding persons. There is no ready-made marriage anywhere. Marriage can only get better by the day when it is built daily by hard work and volunteering self sacrificing; dying to yourself to please your partner. Marriage is like a CAR with gear oil, gearbox, back hassles and if these parts are not properly maintained, the car will break down somewhere along the road, exposing the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. Same way the ingredients of marriage which include; love, trust, respect, support, faithfulness, honesty, loyalty must always be maintained in the marriage to keep it alive.
4. GOD CANNOT GIVE YOU THE COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE.
God gives babies not adults. It is, therefore, the responsibility of whoever it is given to nurture and grow it to what he or she desires.
God gives you your spouse in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the individual into what you desire. You may desire a woman who can pray for 1 hour but your wife can only pray for 30 minutes. With your love, prayer and encouragement, she can improve. You mould your spouse to fit your heart desires through love, not the rude way.
3. TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK AND ADJUST.
You may know a lot about your spouse in your time of dating or courtship but you must make room for adjustment. People do change with time and one must be prepared to adjust to new behaviours of your spouse.
For instance, the behaviour of your wife when she is pregnant will not be the same as when she was not pregnant.
Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years. You may get married to her because she’s slim but she becomes 100% fatter after bearing a child. He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. But with God by your side, you will smile at last.
2. MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT THAT EXPIRES IT IS PERMANENT.
Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that binds the couple together. Feed your marriage with more love and commitment and it will last forever. Desist from the thought of divorce. Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce!
You can’t devise an escape route you will not use. The fact that you have devised it either mentally or physically, you will surely make use of it someday.
Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married!
1. MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TAG.
Anything of value has a price tag.
Marriage is likened to planting. It is what you put in the soil that germinates into fruits that you can harvest in a hundred folds. If you don’t plant love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage; the price to pay for marriage is love, trust, commitment, honesty, sacrifice, respect.
You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.
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