You have met a man or a woman who you like, and with whom the flow is quite good. Maybe you’ve already shared a first kiss and good times. This is when the inescapable question arises: “after how long to have s*x the first time?” It’s hard to give a single answer to this question, and here’s why.
HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO HAVE SEX THE FIRST TIME?
There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, other than “as long as you want!” “. To sleep, you must be at least two and be consenting. And for the rest, there isn’t a predefined rule. If you’re both ready to have s*x and you feel like it, nothing is stopping you from taking action. You just have to make sure your partner is on the same page as you and get their consent.
READY, NOT READY?
If you are both ready to have s*x, then it is consensual s*x. They can take place anytime! On the first date as on the fifth, whatever. If you are not ready or if your partner is not, you will have to wait as long as it takes to both agree. One appointment, two appointments, several weeks, several months… This decision must be taken together. If he or she has gestures towards you, you are welcome to welcome them if you feel like it. Kissing and hugging don’t always lead to s*x, especially if one of you doesn’t feel like it yet or doesn’t feel ready. If not, make it clear and help him understand your limits. He or she can then respect them.
SHOULD WE GO TO BED QUICKLY?
Yes, if the two of you are ready. But no, not necessarily! The period of discovery that precedes the first time in bed also has its interests. Getting to know each other, discovering the personality of the other… These are key stages in a successful and solid relationship. You can choose to wait for several dates and allow some time to pass before considering discovering yourself on a carnal level. If you are attracted to each other and you are fulfilling s*x together, you have every chance of starting a serious relationship.
Going to bed quickly might make your partner think it’s a habit. Some women do not dare to give in to their desire to have s*x quickly for fear of appearing to be an “easy woman”. However, here there is no rule except mutual consent.
HOW TO MAKE A MAN WAIT BEFORE HAVING SEX?
You have met a man on the internet or in real life, and you like him. Only now, you feel that he wants to move up a gear, but you are not yet ready to make love with him. Whatever your reasons are, they are justified and you should not give in if you don’t want to.
TALK TO HIM ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS
Even if you like a man, you don’t have to sleep with him if you don’t feel like you are ready to go. Whatever happens, you always have the right to say “no”. So how do you make a man wait before having s*x? Just tell him. If you feel he is rushing things, let him know how you feel. Do it tactfully, of course, and don’t wait too long to explain it to him. Indeed, he might not understand your reasons if you push him away. Better not to wait before telling her that you would like to take your time. Let her know when you’re ready!
DISCOVER YOURSELF DIFFERENTLY
You have just met and the current is flowing between you. That’s excellent news. Learn to discover yourself other than with a game of leg in the air. If you want to see where this relationship can lead before committing to the carnal level, that’s your right. Offer him dates in public places, do activities together … Decline his invitations to come in or meet at your house, or explain to him that for the moment, you will not go further. Kisses, hugs, and caresses are also ways to discover yourself without taking action. You can go to a man without having s*x, you just need to be clear about your intentions and your limits. You have time, don’t rush things!
SHE WANTS TO WAIT BEFORE GOING TO BED, WHAT TO DO?
You’ve met a woman, and you seem to like each other. However, despite your advances, she refuses to make love with you. There can be several reasons for this and they must be respected.
SHE’S NOT READY, GIVE HER TIME
We all have a past, a history, loopholes and experiences. It’s what makes us who we are. And it also influences our decisions. If a woman wants to wait before going to bed, she has her reasons. Maybe she’s afraid of being disappointed? Or does she rather wait and see if your story can lead somewhere before committing? Whatever your reasons, you have to respect this decision and be patient. Of course, you should never force a woman or a man to sleep, neither by force nor by blackmail. If after a while she still doesn’t want to take the next step, she might not be right for you. It will then be necessary to end the relationship, if you do not want to wait any longer. But most often