One of the problems in the era of abundance of prospects is knowing if the person you are dating is really the right one or if there is better elsewhere. I often meet people unable to make the decision to commit because the fear of losing a better opportunity is too great. You know what? You will never be 100% sure. Follow your instincts and these few little signs that never fail.
YOU HAVE AN INTELLECTUAL CONNECTION
If the discussion is pleasant, you have a thousand and one things to tell you and you are very interested in most of the topics offered, you have a good intellectual connection. It is essential to develop a rewarding intimacy and relational complicity which can be optimized throughout the relationship.
YOU CARE ABOUT EACH OTHER
If they ask you how your day has been or if they are comforting you during a difficult time in your life, it is a sign that this person is breaking away from their narcissistic need to please care about your well-being. His level of empathy towards you will be significant in the evolution of your relationship. If, on the contrary, the other is not centered on his own person, raise the red flag, and think carefully about the motivations for getting involved in this relationship.
HUMOR IS VERY IMPORTANT
If you laugh together, it’s because a bond is setting in and you are able to be authentic to each other. The important thing is to have more or less the same humor. If you’re not a sassy humor type and your prospect throws these kinds of jokes at you over and over, the connection might be less easy. Know that if his humor annoys you at first, this annoyance will be quintupled after a few months of dating.
THE DESIRE FOR NOTHING TO STOP
If you spend time together and want those moments to never end, then the chemistry is on. Also, one of the signs that your relationship isn’t all about sex is when you want to stick together even after your lovemaking. If the other person tends to get dressed and quit right away, ask yourself questions about their actual engagement intentions.
YOU ADMIRE EACH OTHER
A person in love inevitably experiences admiration for the other. While this feeling develops throughout the relationship, its presence early on is a sign that you are on the right track. You admire his drawing talents and he admires your leadership, this mutual pride will serve to develop unwavering affection. The idea is not to idealize the other person but to recognize their full potential. Be careful if from the start you feel devalued or judged by the slightest disagreement.
YOU JUST FEEL IT
If you feel emotionally secure with this person, that they make you dream, that they pull you upwards and you have a deep conviction that they are the right one for you, why ask yourself a thousand questions? Give yourself the chance to get to know yourself, to deepen the relationship, and to visualize what the future could be with her.
If the fear of commitment takes over, I invite you to read my text How to overcome the fear of commitment?