Sucking milk from a woman’s breasts is, for some couples, part of their sexual ritual
Erotic breastfeeding: does breastfeeding your partner give pleasure
There are erotic experiences that come into our lives by chance. Ideas that may not have crossed our mind, but that, when they arise, awaken feelings that surprise us.
Venus O’Hara a sex-blogger, tells how years ago, due to a confusion with contraceptive treatments, one night while she was watching television she realized that “she had a huge spot on her breast, like milk.” To her surprise, her partner at that time, instead of wondering, began to lick her erotically. “He started sucking on my breast. It was very strange because I did not know what was happening to me, but he was very excited. I guess what I liked was seeing that there was nothing about my body that disgusted him, but that I was delighted, and it was something that even seemed pretty to me “.
What Venus O’Hara experienced, without looking for it, was an adult lactation relationship, also called erotic lactation. That is a sexual practice in which one member of the couple sucks the other’s breast, in search of breast milk.
DOES IT GIVE PLEASURE?
“It is one more way of seeking pleasure, associated with an erotic part of a woman such as the breasts, with a connotation associated with breastfeeding,” explains Ana Sierra, psychologist and sex therapist. It is not a new trend, but a practice that seems to have always existed and that is even recorded in our collective imagination,
The explanation is not only in the idea of the fetish but above all in the generation of bonds between the couple. Beyond the “skin-to-skin” moment, it should be noted that during breastfeeding, the mother and the baby secrete a greater amount of oxytocin, the love hormone, which reinforces the emotional bond between them. That is why “some couples explain that this link is also reinforced in erotic breastfeeding,” says the expert.
Breast milk also makes children, when they suckle, then fall asleep, because substances are released that help them calm down, so these effects are also those that are sought in erotic breastfeeding, although you have to understand that the same amount of milk is not ingested as a baby.
“It is one more way of seeking pleasure, associated with an erotic part of the woman such as the breasts, with a connotation associated with breastfeeding. It reinforces the emotional bond between the members of the couple ”
Similarly, the sexologist believes that it is also a role-play, like the doctor and the patient, but with a greater emotionality. “Each person looks for something different in sexual relationships, there are those who seek the erotic factor, but there are those who seek that intimate bond with another person.” In fact, “it can even be an orgasmic practice” because orgasm depends many times more on the sensations that are generated in our mind than on the friction of the genitals.
One of the cases that have attracted the most attention, regarding an adult lactation relationship, is that of the woman who left her job to breastfeed her 36-year-old boyfriend. But despite what one might think, it is not a practice that occurs only in heterosexual couples, but it is also done between women, sucking or stimulating, even if that milk is not obtained.
Perhaps one of the reasons is the memory we have of our childhood. “We have an emotional memory and, although we are not fully aware of it, there are still people who sleep as they did in their mother’s womb”, recalls the psychologist and sexologist, who argues that erotic breastfeeding “also causes a feeling of protection”.
This does not mean that it is an effective lack, but that we simply “connect with very primary sensations, with our basic need for attachment, for care”. In this sense, Sierra clarifies that “everything that goes outside the norm, we usually attribute to a trauma or a disorder, but it does not have to be that way, because obtaining pleasure with the mouth is something common, that we do every day when we eat, kiss or smoke ”.
Another idea is that of pure morbid. It should not be overlooked that in a sexual relationship, what occurs is an exchange of fluids, since, as the sexologist points out, “there is a more erotic sensation in terms of the fusion of the couple, which also makes more intense practices such as cunnilingus or fellatio ”, and in this case, something similar would happen, since“ it is like nourishing ourselves from the other person ”.
CAN YOU PRODUCE MILK WITHOUT GIVING BIRTH?
Another of the doubts that this sexual practice presents is whether it occurs only in those people who are breastfeeding a baby and who, incidentally, also breastfeed their partner, or if it is possible to cause the secretion of breast milk for the same. In this regard, the gynecologist at the Quirón University Hospital in Madrid, Gema García, clarifies that “one thing is to have galactorrhea or milk secretion in one or both breasts, secondary to an increase in prolactin in the blood, and another to stimulate lactation without having been pregnant.”
At this point, the gynecologist Gema García clarifies that there may be “a nipple discharge that is not considered breastfeeding as such.” This is because there is an increase in prolactin in our body, the hormone that stimulates the secretion of milk, even if it has not gone through a pregnancy. Thus, García clarifies that “in situations such as the taking of some drugs, their production may be elevated, leading to secretion from the nipple.”
The sexologist Ana Sierra explains that in the case of wanting to induce breastfeeding, it is not a simple process and it must be understood that it carries its risks, such as possible mastitis, in addition to hormonal changes that we must take into account. Despite this, if it is our objective, it is true that “it can be done through pharmacology, but supporting with manual extraction or even that the couple suck or with a breast pump” in a prolonged way in time, to help stimulate the process. If we do not want to take any drug, Sierra adds that there are people who choose to try herbal medicine, since “there are plants that seem to stimulate milk production.”
Some couples have opted for erotic breastfeeding not only for a sexual issue but to produce breast milk that can help the immune system of their partners, if this, for example, is going through cancer. which claim that some of the proteins in breast milk are lethal to tumor cells.